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May 21, 2008

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Grabbed this from Mr Juan Tan. told u people with Tan are all smart.. =P

‘I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I’d take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven’t figured it out.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He’d tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn’t feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were f***ing treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were “just friends.” Besides, he totally wasn’t your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn’t know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren’t the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you’re single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, “What happened to all the nice guys?”

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive “just-a-” friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren’t really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you’re upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he’d have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an ***hole than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he’s probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I’m sorry that it took the complete absence of “nice guys” in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you’re looking for a nice guy, here’s what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ***.
3.) Take a look at what’s right in front of you and grab ahold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don’t really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you’ve ****ed yourself over. You’re getting older, after all. It’s time to excise the bullshit and deal with reality. You didn’t want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn’t ****ing want you, now.

5/21/2008 04:26:00 PM;

May 18, 2008

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ok.... violin is really fun, went for the 2nd meeting, learned ABCD... thn went town eat and walk walk... daren brought us to the express way the bridge there, it safe to sit there actually, there a metal platform down there, drop down got the thing to support, but due to the height, i didnt dare to sit.... hahaz

tmr goin over to RP for concert, some1 will be performing and i bet she didnt even pratise or at most half a day only... hahaz...good luck to performing and don nervous and play wrong... looking forward to tmr, been so long since i last went to a concert....

dota session again, getting back the game somehow.. now waiting daren to end his super duper long game thn can dota tgt with him and chirs!!!!

QT, don worry!!! everything be ok!!! work or personal things!!! =)

A rainbow can help a lot!!

5/18/2008 02:14:00 AM;

May 12, 2008

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ok... should post a bit again...Dr Tan is back to business with his crapping on stuff again..

below is for the freshies only....
Not every1 has the same sets of thinking, different ways of doing things, different ways of expressing themselves, no 1 is perfect in this world... despite the fact that u don lyk that person or what, at least show a bit of respect to the person.. even if it was meant to be a joke, some might not think it is even if ur tone already sounds obvious that ur joking.. don assume tat others lvl of endurance is the same as urs... even the most trival thing u do can have a great impact on 1 person.. last but not least, using the word extra is too much if it's meant to be a joke(personal thinking)

sry for the bad EL and unorganised points here and there...

i'm a sadist at tyms and 1 more thing, just do what u wan and don regret it what others can do is limited, wat matter is U!!

5/12/2008 09:36:00 PM;

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SUPER DUPER BLOODY HELL DE SIAN!!!!! having lessons in class now... lecture lecture and more lecture..the ppl on the left side are all doing their own stuff, surfing web and even slp while the usual 6 who listen in class are watching the slide as the teacher speaks... ok nth liao... just been lame... really nth do at all... msn no ppl to fan either, all lyk angry with me keep fan them.... back to doing stupid stuff...

5/12/2008 02:19:00 PM;

May 3, 2008

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week 3 of sch has ended, time passes so fast!! just played dota with chris, totally CMI!!! training with AI wont help much either, they are pure stupid.

whole day audi today... sian of audi also, too long didnt play, sucks at it too...

i'm a noob at every game now... =(

ok... randomness shall stop here and a new blog for all the emo stuff shall be created, don let the emo thing affect this blog happiness... hohoho

5/03/2008 11:53:00 PM;

May 2, 2008

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ok post a bit today, went out with my class freshies on wed, went to watch iron man at jurong east, 9.45pm ticket!! by the time the movie ends, no bus for me to go home le.. luckily joo yeong(if i didnt remember wrong) drives, so good to have some1 who drives when goin out...

the seats at the theater sucks la, so shaky, movie wise, ok only, not really nice, just pure funny..

1st time went out with poly ppl and the number of ppl actually reaches 12, goin out with T05 + some others the number of ppl cannot reaches 10 most of the time, even during our class chalet, only a total of 8 only out of the 20, but!!! freshies class and own class, own is more important. =) (ended btm is crap)

last but not least, if u think i'm treating u like b4, go notice the way i treat u now, it the same as i treat others, u took me for granted and now u lost it. u ask me how to see if some1 is treating u special and wherther that person is treating only you this way because she knows the feelings u had for her, have a look at how she treats the ppl around her, compair urself to them and u shall know, hate to say this, ur deserving the way she treats u. this will be the last time i ever tell u this!! some1 who don't even know how to value friendship has no right to talk abt love since u cant even achive the most simple relationship.

that all thn =)

Labels: 2nd youngest in 0705, 4th youngest in 0804

5/02/2008 07:39:00 PM;